We will never go back!
By A Yahoo! Contributor, 9/4/07
My then fiancé, now husband, and I searched for the perfect property to host our 3-day, wedding weekend celebration for our families and friends. It wasn't until we stumbled upon this aesthetically gorgeous hotel, that everything else fell into place. We ended up planning our entire theme for the wedding around this seemingly enchanting getaway. We ended up renting the ENTIRE property for 3 days, 1 cottage each for our parents', their brothers and sisters' families, grandparents, and a few friends. And if you're doing your math, people, that's a little over $6,000 the owners made off of us.
I talked with the owner a few weeks before our arrival and she couldn't have been more lovely and accommodating. They'd had a wedding party there before us recently and were a little apprehensive about hosting another due to what they characterized as "bad behavior" on the part of those guests. But after we talked, she seemed as excited as I was to meet.
Everything was pretty much okay with the owner until my side of the family began to arrive on the Friday before the wedding. You see, I am African-American, my now husband is Jewish. The owner became tense, rude, uncomfortable and began demanding extra charges that hadn't been mentioned before. We had already paid the bill with the wonderful lady that worked in the office, but then the owner came in and, after locking some of the rooms that had already been opened so I could place gift baskets in them, wouldn't hand the keys over to me until I paid her the extra money. I don't know about you, but where I come from, that's called extortion.
We paid it, because at that point we had guests arriving, entire families, some of whom live across the country and hadn't seen each other in 10 years.
After a few hours of her sitting in the office, glaring at everyone as they congregated by the pool before they left for the rehearsal dinner, she left, and was replaced by another amazingly wonderful employee. At this point, several of my husband's family members commented about how rude and abrasive the owner was towards several of my family members during check-in. I was so devastated about the owner's outrageous behavior, I didn't even attend my own rehearsal dinner.
I'd spent so much time and money and energy trying to create this experience for our wedding and our families, had put so much of myself into this, and then to be treated like a second-class citizen was almost enough to ruin Ojai for me, which had become our little escape, our second-home.
When we confronted the owner about her behavior at the end of our stay, there was no remorse on her part whatsoever. And it's so unfortunate on her part. We are and would have been amazingly loyal customers who not only returned every year for our anniversary, but my husband's family is a HUGE, warm (wealthy) family that loves to travel together for holidays, rent multiple homes in the summers together all over the country, and had fallen in love with this property, with Ojai. But now that they know how I was treated, how my family was treated, they, along with us, are never coming back to this establishment again. We will be taking our business and our money elsewhere. It's such a shame, really, because at the end of the day, we're good people who didn't deserve to be treated this way.